This is for all the mothers who probably won’t win Mother of the Year. All the runners-up and all the wannabes. The mothers too tired to enter or too busy to care. This is for all the mothers who froze their buns off on metal bleachers at soccer games Friday night instead of watching from cars, so that when their kids asked, “Did you see my goal?” they could say, “Of course, wouldn’t have missed it for the world,” and mean it.
This is for all the mothers who have sat up all night with sick toddlers in their arms, wiping up barf laced with Oscar Mayer wieners and cherry Kool-Aid saying, “It’s OK, honey, Mommy’s here.”
This is for the mothers who gave birth to babies they’ll never see. And the mothers who took those babies and made them homes. For all the mothers who run carpools and make cookies and sew Halloween costumes, and all the mothers who DON’T.
What makes a good Mother anyway? Is it patience? Compassion? Broad hips? The ability to nurse a baby, cook dinner, and sew a button on a shirt, all at the same time? Or is it heart? Is it the ache you feel when you watch your son or daughter disappear down the street, walking to school alone for the very first time? The jolt that takes you from sleep to dread, from bed to crib at 2 A.M. to put your hand on the back of a sleeping baby? The need to flee from wherever you are and hug your child when you hear news of a school shooting, a fire, a car accident, a baby dying?
So this is for all the mothers who sat down with their children and explained all about
making babies. And for all the mothers who wanted to, but just couldn’t. This is for
reading “Goodnight, Moon” twice a night for a year… And then reading it again,
“Just one more time.”
This is for all the mothers who mess up. Who yell at their kids in the grocery store
and swat them in despair and stomp their feet like a tired 2-year-old who wants ice
cream before dinner. This is for all the mothers who taught their daughters to tie their
shoelaces before they started school. And for all the mothers who opted for Velcro
instead. For all the mothers who bite their lips – sometimes until they bleed – when
their 14 year olds dye their hair green. Who lock themselves in the bathroom when
babies keep crying and won’t stop.
This is for all the mothers who show up at work with spit-up in their hair and milk
stains on their blouses and diapers in their purse. This is for all the mothers who teach
their sons to cook and their daughters to sink a jump shot. This is for all mothers
whose heads turn automatically when a little voice calls mom?” in a crowd, even
though they know their own offspring are at home.
This is for mothers who put pinwheels and teddy bears on their children’s graves. This is for mothers whose children have gone astray, who can’t find the words to reach them. This is for all the mothers who sent their sons to school with stomachaches, assuring them they’d be just FINE once they got there, only to get calls from the school nurse and hour later asking them to please pick them up. Right away.
This is for young mothers stumbling through diaper changes and sleep deprivation. And mature mothers learning to let go. For working mothers and stay-at-home mothers. Single mothers and married mothers. Mothers with money, mothers without. This is for all of you.
Hang in there, and know that you are loved and needed.
“Home is what catches us when we fall – and we all fall.”